It will be that they had been the transformations after-relationships that are producing divergence or that from ‘ will not be determined moment to the part; ‘ oculta’ ‘ of the other, the one that you did not give attention, but now is giving, started to have one weight very great in the relationship. Having as approach to the other face of the relationship, I decided to write some lines on this subject, as plus a tool if to think, when one is in search of a steady relationship. DEVELOPMENT we are educated since small searching and valuing the part ‘ ‘ boa’ ‘ of the person. That one that each one inside finds positive of its criterion. Thus giving, a great importance to this part, forgetting to give to attention in the part ‘ ‘ ruim’ ‘ , ‘ ‘ negativa’ ‘ , that one that bothers in them. The one that does not correspond to our criteria.
We live the illusion that the part ‘ ‘ positiva’ ‘ , that one that we value and we want to share, has in itself, the power to overlap to ‘ ‘ negativa’ ‘ , the one that we do not like and we do not want to share, and that this, will not have no meaning and importance in the relationship. ‘ ‘ It will be, be, be …………! ‘ ‘. We go to think. To share with good, pleasant, positive things is easy, therefore little it demands of us and it does not bother in them. It is always rewarding and it does not create problem, quarrel, disagreements, points of discord, etc. Now, imagines that it has that to eat an apple that presents a deteriorated part..