A neurotic person is, simply, a person who suffers. That he suffers a lot. The neurosis concept is synonymous with excessive emotional pain, with the corresponding psicoconductuales aftermath. These sequels can be of many types (anxiety, phobias, depression, aggressiveness, hyperactivity, addictions, obsessions, fears, problems of personality, etc.), but, in general, all of them share a same nature, only one meaning. What are these? What is neurosis and como se cura? From a psychodynamic approach, we can view neurosis from many angles and, therefore, define it in several ways.
Por_ejemplo, we can say that: 1) the neurosis is a conflict. Certainly, it is the outcome of a conflict, usually unconscious, between the feelings that the subject really feel but dare not admit and show feelings/behaviours that believed itself bound by received education and social, to express requirements (p. ex., pain, anger, fear, guilt, attachment, self-disrespect, etc.). Of this contradiction of this clash, usually arises an intermediate mask, a more or less distorted feeling/conduct, which we call the symptom. A set of symptoms is called disorder.
(2) The neurosis is a lock. As a result of the previous conflict and its derivative symptoms, the person can not flow and adapt easily to the reality, jams, fails here and there (couple, work, social relationships, projects, happiness, etc.), it suffers a lot through it all. As a result, their symptoms are feedbacks and perpetuate. (3) The neurosis is a defense. Against what? Precisely against her most secret and unbearable pains: his heartbreak, their traumas, their fears, their repressed feelings, his childhood lost forever, its responsibility to take care of yourself / a, etc. 4) neurosis is a strategy. Paradoxically, the neurotic symptoms also offer its advantages, because they give the subject the opportunity to be the center of attention, claim love and pampering, dominate the environment, prevent life and responsibilities, etc. Thus, the neurotic, for convenience and laziness unconscious, resists without knowing it to be cured. (5) The neurosis is immaturity. The above is a demonstration and, at the same time, an enhancer of the secret infantilism – or narcissism-of the neurotic that, ultimately, is nothing more than a scared child stuck in the past, avoiding life, giving up his freedom. The neurotic, in sum, paradoxically clung to their problem, refuses to grow. Como se cura neurosis? If this is, as we have seen, the encrypted expression of a conflict, a lock, a defense, a strategy and a form of immaturity, then healing will require exploring and bringing to light, with courage, the basic conflict of the subject for, with the help and support of the therapist, revive them without masks and overcome them with patience and responsibility. One will have to discover, accept and learn to live with the hardest truths of himself and his environment, past and present; will have that mourn, infuriate you and abandon their feelings of guilt; exceed, in the end, their latest children’s resistance. You can then assume, without fear, with self-esteem and with a more bearable pain, that I no longer need to continue running away from myself, because I feel fully capable of dealing with my past, my life and my destiny. And only then happiness will start to come into his life. This is the process of psychodynamic therapy. JOSe LUIS CANO GILPsicoterapeuta and writer.